Genuine laughter is a tonic to the soul. It raises our energy and makes us feel good, even if only temporarily. It bathes our brain in neurotransmitters associated with pleasure. We laugh in response to things that strike us as funny, humorous or absurd. Often recognition of the absurdities of life, simply noticing and pointing out the ridiculous can bring out laughter. Sometimes exaggeration, silliness, clumsiness or the misfortunes of others can strike us as humorous. Recognition of our own weakness or expressions of humility can trigger laughter in others. To fully embrace and enjoy life you should try to laugh at least a little every day. Laughter with friends and partners is a particularly effective way to stay emotionally connected.
Scientists don't know exactly why we make the sound of laughter, but it does serve a social function and cause us to feel more connected to one another. It is not entirely unique to humans, as some other primate species appear to engage in some form of laughter. There may be some evolutionary roots in aggressive behavior, as chimpanzees appear to laugh prior to engaging in group attack. In fact, we often find humorous things that are somewhat emotionally distressing or embarrassing to other people. As long as there is no serious harm involved that upsets our moral values, mild distress in others often creates laughter. There is also a component of surprise or the unexpected involved in the things that strike us as funny. Unusual or unexpected perspectives on common situations such as depicted in comedic anecdotes generate laughter. Laughter is also contagious. Simply hearing the laughter of others can create genuine laughter in ourselves.
When people are sad, depressed or otherwise distressed emotionally they typically do not feel like laughing. Similarly, engagement in serious matters with high stakes or consequences in typically not a situation for humor and laughter. It can be socially inappropriate and genuinely upsetting or anger producing to joke and laugh when someone is serious or sad. Humor can also be used as a form of aggression. Certainly, humor directed toward political figures or famous celebrities is a common scenario. This can be light-hearted, and help people cope with issues that are concerning or distressing. On the other hand, it is also used in aggressive ways, helping those in opposition to another group bond and share connection in their mutual disdain for the other. Laughter is noted to occur in acts of group aggression among people, not just in other primate species. Aggressors laugh as a means of sharing their approval of the offense, while dehumanizing the victims. The point is to be aware of the effects of laughter, and the scenarios in which it can be harmful.
Yet, there are times when a light hearted approach to serious or sad situations can help alleviate stress and emotional weight. Knowing when to incorporate humor can lift a depressed mood or alleviate the burden of stress. Certainly, a tendency to joke in all situations can lead to the perception of a lack of seriousness. Knowing when and how to be taken seriously, and yet the ability to self deprecate and not take oneself too seriously is a valuable social skill. The ability to lift the mood of others and lighten their emotional load, even if temporarily, is a skill that can be learned and practiced. Incorporating humor and laughter into your romantic partnership, your work, and your play activities is a great way to strengthen the bonds of emotional connection and enhance the joyful experience of life together with other people.